Either way, as women we spend far to much time analysing this stuff rather than getting on with our lives. It is upto you to take the course of action you want to take from there on. A totally honest chump, I'm running like Forest Gump. The main factor is his lack of confidence in himself. It was a perception--in reality back then I would love to fall in love, but then not know what in the hell I was doing later. Spam will result in an immediate ban.
I say the same thing to my gf at least once a week. Not really pertinent to this topic but it infuriated me that he decided what was best for me. In fact I don't have any strong feelings for her now, just friends I suppose and we'll see what happens. Make the person realise that their thoughts are wrong, that they deserve you, and you deserve them. I think it is due to his low self esteem. Codependents and addicts are often drawn together because they are a perfect complement for each other - and are perfectly unhealthy for each other because they amplify and perpetuate the existing problems.
Actually, it was very enjoyble. One option is to reassure him of what you expect — do you value his love and understanding over having a big house in the right postcode. You are a good girl - a pleasant square. I think you guys are giving men too much credit: I don't feel we would use the too good for me as a cop out. I understand where you can get mixed up; they both state that she feels lucky to have you; but the context of both is completely different Way to good to me - No guy in the past has treated me like you do. Seems to me he's the only addict that doesn't regret losing what he had.
Great start to a relationship- and 3 months in he breaks up with me and states one of his reasons that I was just Too Good. Its even worse if it is said earlier in the relationship; it becomes a deal breaker. I expect people to be friendly, but even then. If its early in the relationship or friendship and neither of you are prepared to work through them, part ways. How do those traits make him great to be with in your opinion? He may one day decide to come back.
He is dating someone, but I am not entirely sure what that means anymore since the girl seems to think that means girlfriend instead of casual dating. I suppose she could be saying prove yourself to me, fight for me as well. And the second one sounds a lot like just low self-esteem, like she doesn't think she's good enough for you. I think they felt like they were not up to the committment because they perceived that I loved them more than they loved me. People tend to follow psychological patterns whether or not they realize it, and this is one of them. I have also been told that I was Too Good for someone.
Also, someone who has done something wrong in the relationship like cheating may be experiencing such strong feelings of remorse that they believe the other person is better than them and would truly be better off without them. They will constantly be unhappy and so will you. He might actually think that you are way too good looking for him. I'm spewing up parasites, it's burning like dynamite. Her personal qualities are amazing tho! She would say thanks and we would continue on with whatever we were doing. I'm sure as guys we'd be saying something a lot more simple, i. Either way, I think the phrase is intended to spare hurt feelings.
Here are nine of those signs so, hopefully, you can shake them from your life. I've heard this from past boyfriends a lot and really from them I think it was just a cop-out, a nicer way to break-up with someone. Now I'm no longer seeing her but I just wonder, people say when someone says something like that, it's usually a soft way to say I'm not interested in you anymore. He feels he needs to spend a lot of time working on himself and he doesn't have enough to give you. You should tell her how you feel, for real.
My guess is that he is being modest maybe because he thinks you are older and perhaps with more experience, in which case, it would be natural to act a little intimidated. She often tells me I'm so sweet or thoughtful when I do things for her. Or it could be that he is trying to keep his options open. Usually, that's either a graceful rejection line and a great deal better than It's not you, it's me. It's possible he picks up on these things, even subconsciously, and realizes that you two are not a good match. So, yes, it definitely is a valid, reasonable excuse. The girl next door, the girl his mom would love for him to be with, but not the girl he wants to be with.
Also is it so hard to believe that they may have just met really bad people in their lives? Really, if your guy wants you, he'd go for it. You may want to introspect on why, exactly, you're so hung up on this addict. She said, But there's no guarantee that I could change. They really do destroy lives in so many ways you can't even think of. She smokes, drinks, lies, while I do nothing of those, except a little bit of lying I consider myself a pretty religious person. But he thinks saying that you are too good for him will shield you from being too hurt.
They need to take a closer look at themselves and what they want to be able to maintain a healthy and lasting relationship. I also took him to a party once and afterwards he said he was impressed by the caliber of people. I can see that in some cases for sure, especially with an ex. I am looking for someone different' As others say. Not really pertinent to this topic but it infuriated me that he decided what was best for me.