A female reader, , writes 12 January 2011 : Okay, well here is my view on this. That's a horse of a different color. Is it perhaps nerves that is stopping him? Actually, he disgusted me and I have always been ashamed of being with him. A female reader, anonymous, writes 25 February 2009 : Well, I don't know what to say either. Of course, only do this if you genuinely feel like having sex in the moment. If he prefers to be the one to kiss you, he might be turned off or intimidated when you try to kiss him.
Maybe he's the kind of person who thinks there's a time and a place for kissing, touching etc. I lived 14 years in my marriage not feeling sexually satisfied or even wanted sexually. I was single for two years and he had gotten out of a relationship of 8 months to a crazy girl. Sex and kissing are 2 different things. Sometime after the kissing faded, our sex life in general died.
I decided that I need to brake up with him. However, my boyfriend shows no affection which has been pushing me so far away. We use to kiss all the time now it's like never. He does have a motorcycle, a crotch rocket, that he's had for five years. Ultimately, your parents will decide what's best for your family. I haven't taken it personnaly yet, but it's really annoying and hurtful. We have sex only about once a week, which I initiate 9 out of 10 times.
He broke up with me years later he didn't love me the same as I did him , and it broke my heart severly. A male reader, anonymous, writes 16 March 2009 : I'm sadly in the same boat. What happened to that kiss that made me fall in love with him on that very first date? The answer that really stabbed me through the heart when I asked her why she wouldn't kiss me was I am not a teenager anymore. If the problem is not your oral hygiene then it is possible your boyfriend doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. Touch his elbow, hold hands, brush his hair out of his face or gently put a hand on his knee.
If you don't want to lose your spouse, you had better decide if your anti passion stance is worth it. I was looking up this subject online, and that is how I can across your posting, praying for some help. It's also upsetting because I struggle to orgasm with him and know that head would help me. His demand that you remove all your hair sounds more like a convenient excuse than a deep-seated phobia. Even when it got to once a month. A female reader, anonymous, writes 27 July 2009 : It's amazing how many people have the same problem! Weeks without sex have turned into months.
You can try concentrating on love and closeness rather than emphasising sex, and with a bit of luck sex will follow, although it sounds as though you may have already tried all that. The only prompting he may need to kiss you is to be alone with you. Let him sit down on the couch first--you could even make up an excuse to go make popcorn so that he settles in first. Be direct and ask him to kiss you. Yeah, when i first met my first girlfriend at age 28 it didn't take much for us to start kissing and holding hands i think you need to do a double take on this relationship i know you don't want give up on him but i think he needs to step up and start showing his love to you.
He says he is under a lot of stress working long hours and trying to catch up with his bills. Those three kisses I can count on but they're just quick pecks, sometimes not even on the lips. A female reader, anonymous, writes 16 June 2009 : I got married at 20. The point is: make ways to show him, bit by bit, that he can feel pleasure with his tongue. It just ulcerates anywhere, even the middle of my arm.
He must really like you and will wait for the perfect time. He talks about being with me forever, but I refuse to live the rest of my life without feeling like I am the only person that matters. There may be other reasons either stress or medical. Stay with him and have no love no affection, no sex its now been a month since we had sex and I feel so unattractive even though people tell me am lovely- Am confused if anyone can help me please do. For 3 years we fought about the lack of affection I felt, and he blamed it on me. Seriously, it has been over a decade since we 'made out' and this is something I miss terribly. She says she enjoys sex but her actions somewhat speak otherwise.
Asking him about it would help to clear your mind. A female reader, anonymous, writes 3 June 2007 : I too have the exact same problem. It is one of the biggest clues you can give him--and cuddling often leads to kissing. Being direct has its ups and downs. I just don't understand the beauty of love without a sensual state.
When my bf and I first got together, I felt like he put me first. Sometimes, I want to leave my husband, but we have 5 kids and a life together. Work out a compromise with him. Just because he is your boyfriend already doesn't mean you should stop flirting. More difficult still would be if he has somehow got it into his head that it's wrong or dirty. She knew my likes and dislikes.