Traditional romantic roles are going by the wayside. Anyway, once a man talks about getting laid easily I pretty much check out. She doesn't have to become a man to be equal. That task belongs to Christ as He works in our lives. Hope the conversation goes well.
Oh, and I am in a position to talk about whatever I like, just as you are. If you'll notice, I did not say that women do as much asking out as men, but they are often rejected by the man after a first date. She has no interest in loving him, only what he provides. Almost always, she wants love and fidelity as much as you do. At the end of the night she tells me to have a great weekend which is her way of saying she wont be in contact until Monday or Tuesday since it is a holiday weekend. Heck, if he is fool enough to marry her, he might not get that companionship either; know plenty of miserable, celibate married men. He went on about it for several minutes.
This allows you to improve your lifestyle, avoids the neediness and desperation of expressly looking for love, and is extremely effective at introducing you to compatible women. Thus loops a bad boy vs nice guy thing. That said, technology's influence on dating is worth more than a cursory glance. It's time for you to get out of your comfort zone once and for all, and find that woman who is looking for someone exactly like you. So many questions answered and so many new questions derived. They can either get with the program or get another cat.
Removing some of the bias and injustice in our family court system will go a long way towards restoring faith in the institution of marriage in this country. Mixed signals are so confusing and just not appreciated. This is because they haven't matured, never having had to take much responsibility, if any, for their horrible behavior while growing up so to speak or within their social circles. You also advised women to own up to their mistakes, such as becoming involved with a gatherer type of man. Our society in the West promotes this type of behavior.
Please tell me why it's so wrong for men to think they are special for no other reason than being men, yet it came across to me the concept was that women are special simply because they are women? Anyone who has been physically abused will certainly have their walls up. You're at a great age to get back on the horse and begin dating again! I've seen the vile things they say about women on their forums. Not acknowledging this fact isn't going to make it better. What they hate is that Japanese society made their fathers, quite literally, work themselves to death. That was the archetypical way of things for thousands of years. She either decides to accept your lead, believing that your goal is to care about her, or she doesn't.
If I was a German and I thought the autobahn and Volkswagen were good ideas, does that make me a Nazi? Men went out and did the tough jobs mined for coal, farmed the land, died in wars while women controlled the home and raised the children. A worthwhile man will readily pursue a woman like her, but he is easily bored with a woman who does not provide him with any challenges whatsoever. You have to be able to read subtle signals when your date might seem bored or unhappy, and know how to fix whatever is going wrong--fast. Do you think she's on a dating a divorcee forum asking how she can deal with a hot and cold man going through a divorce? But she got her wish and society is paying for that lunacy today. Women always come away from these relationships emotionally battered. It seems to me that the message being conveyed is often not one that supports boys developing into responsible young men who are willing to step up to the plate and do the right thing.
But to answer your question: Yes, men who have been physically or emotionally abused deserve better. They honestly like women and have chosen not let their fear get in the way of attaining their goal of having and ultimately maintaining meaningful relationship with one woman. And if you don't want to talk about it -- cue the sirens. Everything is disastrous and catastrophic in that world. The point is, male gatherers of the 1960's sexual revolution got used to the perks of free love. That is what Hussey is proposing, as far as I can tell.
The woman who I'm with now once did something similar with another guy before she met me. This woman is amazing, but she has never been married and has no kids so doesn't really understand everything going on with me day to day. If anything, they need serious counseling to discover why they keep attracting abusers and what they can do differently to attract higher quality individuals. Rejection is easier with more partner options and with less face to face interactions. You seem to feel there's a contradiction in this statement, but there isn't. If you don't do that, it's on you. If there are intense disagreements, you may not be compatible; trying to rule your partner, or letting them rule you, is not going to lead to a fun or healthy relationship.