Her schedule is to come home from school, do homework, clean until dinner. Sometimes our very intensity to have a relationship with another person can in fact further turn that person away. You're doing your best to make your home happier in the hope that he'll do his best to make home life happier too. Both of our sons are going to have bad lives until they come back and deal with their momma issues. He considers me weak and pathetic. I provide a home and pay all their bills because they can not work. I so appreciate you reading and commenting! I choose not to be abused, and that is what his behavior is.
They are treating me like Im a bad mother. Who holds thst baby as a prize over his head. Doug absolutely refused to believe my tales of daytime horrors, so we went to a family counselor. I used to feel guilty every time having some kind of fight with him, but it came to this place where I don't feel guilty anymore and just want to do something to make him stop and leave me alone. If you want, keep a private list of things you have talked to him about. Ive been through it , but after a month, its gotten better! He is 11 years old and just despises me.
I know it hurts, but it sounds like you need to just leave him alone for a bit. We have been married for nine years. Also; since there is no mention of a father, one can assume that the father is not in the picture. I text her almost every day and wish her a good night but no reply. I understood that my bf needed tons of help and was willing to do whatever I could since his kids would be a reflection of me as well when they r with us. He'll do the thing that kids do and are supposed to do by seperating from us and pursuing their own life.
Please if someone has an idea, wisdom, anything. My stepkids live with us, do not see their mother at all, and have been with me for 10 uears now. She's keeping his dinner warm and making things nice for when he gets home, but all the while the child knows he is with another woman. Hello he threatened to kill me and now you have made things even worse! Preferable to remain celibate and single, but if not then 2. She also gave me lots of love.
You, unfortunately can't change someone's attitude, they have to do it themself. It takes incredible sacrifice to raise kids and it's hard to always make the best choices. I can't have friends without him making racist comments. Visits are okay, as long as he is respectful to you. Tells me to change what i'm doing and lower my expectations.
. So hard not to take it personally because it hurts so much but I just remind myself that she takes it out on me because she knows I will always love her regardless and that she can trust that love no matter what. He tries to identify himself with them, for popularity. I hope your husband finds out that you hate his child and even want her to die. He also said that they think I'm crazy and later retracted that statement. She is 22 years old drives a brand new car and lives rent free.
My son and I have a great relationship, my daughter who is the younger of the 2 not so much. They actually do want you to keep your cool: they feel safer. It's so hard to see him in times of rage because he is so caring and sweet at other times. I doubt he will because he has no job. You might not want to use that plan, but it's better for everyone than allowing or rewarding abuse. He owes me money and has been slowly payibg me back. They to have started being very disrespectful.
He had more money and resources and took them away. Through our entire adult lives, we wrestle with hormones surging in our bodies, but after our teenage years we have developed enough to manage most of the residual emotions. And I've always helped with anything financially. She will never fully embrace the gift given to her by her step brothers and mother; the gift of time. We felt it was best for everyone that we were all under one roof. If you want to be a better dad to your kids than you've been before, identify where you have been going wrong and take steps to change it—ask your children and listen to what they have to say.
You need to take care of yourself. It was somewhat better when he was working--then he didn't have enough time to be on it constantly; but now as I said that's all he does. It is a new situation for all involved. Even though that's not true at all. When I'm stressed I throw myself into my work and pray, I don't marinate in alcohol and hurl abusive names at anyone I disagree with. It might help to have a quiet chat with him again a while later, asking him to discuss reasons so you can understand.