The type of love that you talk about, well that's how we women see it, and yes some men are like that too. Eye contact can actually make men feel less, not more, comfortable. We close our eyes when we kiss not because we want to disconnect from the moment but because it actually draws our awareness closer to what is taking place physically. Now she teaches women how to unleash their inner vixen on their terms and enjoy the love they deserve. You haven't written the book on what is normal, moral or right or wrong. I guess this is the same for men too and that is why they do it! Like many women, have your ever suspected whether he starts to retreat into another vivid fantasy world? Signed, Insecure Dear Insecure, There are a few reasons why your may have his eyes closed, like maybe he's thinking about other more attractive women, his ex-girlfriends or perhaps your best friend.
To them women are demanding, nagging creatures who like to spoil all their fun. I think that is what I have been saying, but you seem to condrict yourself. Our circumstances just suck : His Actions Speak Louder than his Words. If anyone says that the guy giving up porn is required but the woman should be able to go out and do anything that she wants then that person is a hypocrite. This is really a question for the guys, females welcome, but I really want men to answer. What do you do with your eyes while having sex? Her work has influenced thousands of women and she is a regular contributor at Digital Romance, Inc.
Wink to all human ethologists on Quora! I just asked my wife if she ever closes her eyes during sex. Some men and women like porn, and some people close their eyes. It is apparent that you have much unhappiness. Page 1 of 2 , I've been seeing this guy for about a month or so. Some might do it more than others and a simple chat would reveal the real reasons for it.
Whenever I ask him about it, he says I am just looking for a fight but that is really not true. I was never addicted, I watched it maybe 2 or 3 times a month, but it still had an impact on my relationships. Or maybe it's just his way of having sex. I noticed that when my and I are , he keeps his eyes closed. That's why I have no insecurity with porn, no jealousy about other women, no need for validation for my feelings and what I believe. You write what you think, and I write what I think.
Why, oh why do women force men to change, when we have few post, under probably 5% of posts from men asking women to change. He always kept his eyes closed during sex, and it really bugged me. I have never had to give up porn for anyone, so I cannot totally understand what it would mean. I don't know what to do; it really annoys my boyfriend that I won't look him in the eye but it just makes me enjoy the whole experience less. There are definitely better fish in the sea.
You're husband is attracted to other woman or women. But looking at women and keeping eye contact with them are two different things. Again you confuse me, why do you believe my standards are lower than yours. I think the way he handled it is absolutely awful and not okay at all. Both in relationships at that time! I believe that if we had to conduct an informal poll to investigate attitudes to sex and sexuality, that women would register the greatest levels of conflict or discomfort. Being intimate with your partner is crucial in a relationship. When a man is having sex, there's a rush of emotions.
What does he need to concentrate on if feels great? Actually the reason why I didn't suggest she communicate with him, is because I think her question is strange, and I'm actually worried that her guy will think the same thing. Thanks for the responses guys, I do appreciate it. Mostly becasue ofthe sex to follow. Do you really think I care as much as you about whether men are pleased with me or not. And beyond question, orgasms are more of amazing physical fireworks. Now it's all too easy to jump to conclusions, but I don't see the logic of keeping his eyes shut when he could be looking at you, so maybe he is mentally fantasising about something, or someone else. If you were doing something, intentional or unintentional, to the one you loved, and giving up one, selfish thing, would stop the pain.
How do I overcome my insecurities in myself as well as my wife? Is it fair to ask your boyfriend to do something? Try just looking at him occasionally. If this is all that you have to go on then you need to have some serious communication between the 2 of you. After 3years she noticed he watches porn, and he also closes his eyes. Never accuse him of thinking of other women, as it will make him more nervous the next time he tries to be intimate. But I can't help but wonder if he is thinking of her or his porn a lot now since he has his eyes closed a lot.
Fortunately for me, both my first wife and my current wife of 23 years and partner of 29 years both liked porn and have no problem with me watching it with them or alone. Maybe after reading these posts, you can ask him about it? If a women hates porn because, for instance, she was once raped and it reminds her of that, then giving it up should be an easy decision. Even after discovering that I enjoyed kissing better that way, it still took a bit of practice and conscious effort to learn to do it that way, though I still like to sneak a few peeks sometimes now :P Anyway just talk to him if it bothers you much, maybe he's just inexperienced, or maybe that's the way he likes kissing. No matter what you do or say won't stop him from being attracted to her. It puts me in an awkward position because I look like a fool to our mutual friends, even if my boyfriend is not the one doing the flirting. There are lots of reasons why a guy may look into your eyes often, he could be trying to read indications of your level of pleaseure from your face, or it could simply be a sign of love.
Sounds like he's really trying to make a connection with you. If the latter is the case then you need to address some insecurity problems. Relationships are about communication, understanding and trying to get along. I get that but it bothers me because this makes her feel comfortable contacting him. Also, maybe you two could try some other position once in a while, like doggy-style. I, and my boyfriend, often close our eyes during sex as a way to completely immerse ourselves in the pleasurable sensations we are feeling.