Now, when it comes to two women cheek-kissing I guess you would let the older one choose. And when it comes to la bise I can guarantee that I always go for the wrong side to start even after 17 years in France! Cheek kissing is very common in , and , the , the , the and. Thanks so much for sharing this fun culture difference! I grew up in Brazil, and they do like kissing in this country. If he had leaned in to kiss my cheeks, I would have leaned in also but I would never initiate in that case. One feels such a fool if you dance to the left and your friend turns the other way! I was an exchange student in France for a couple weeks last summer and the bises took some getting used to! While they do not object to kissing their family and close friends, a handshake is the best option when you are unsure of how to proceed. In Provence, my friends give me 2 cheek kisses but in Montpellier, my friends give me 3 kisses. In fact, some Canadians stereotype the act of cheek kissing as pompous and pretentious.
By observing my friends, I noticed that many of them tend to turn their head to the left so that the first bise lands on the right cheek but not always so just go with the flow. Even us have to follow the lead of the locals all the time :p I have become very close with a French guy. Whatever mode you do choose, stick to it and eventually, it will become a habit for you, and common courtesy for others to put your mind at ease and greet you the way you like to be greeted. The French habit of cheek kissing among adults is not at all common. And this goes for the number of cheek-kisses too.
In the beginning, my friends were the ones to initiate the first bise but now that I understand the nuances, I sometimes initiate the first bise with new friends. This detail is important in the business world, but very easily ignored at a cocktail party or at a gathering. As a female, you will faire la bise with both men and women of any age. That is what will come naturally for them to do. Also, it's something I find you can do frequently. In Lebanon the kissing starts on the left side.
Benjamin Houy is a native French speaker and the founder of French Together. A French Kiss is a kiss which is wet, and which uses the tongue in a sensual, sexual way. Is it any cheek-kissing-depending-on-countries collection including it? You greet people with a kiss on the cheek or two, three, up to four when you have a special relationship with them friendship, family. Ann Tu sais, ce n'est vraiment pas facile pour les étrangers. Children of close friends here will always offer a bise — it is best to let them decide. This cheek kissing etiquette even extends to kissing the receptionists at the gym every time I enter or leave.
In the last one to two decades hugging became fashionable in informal situations among friends. Male to male cheek kissing is considered normal in almost every occasion, but very rarely for men who are introduced for the first time. The question In my early 20s, I practised how to meet and greet people with a handshake firm grip, eye contact and a smile and a How are you? When in doubt, pause and follow the lead of your Italian friend. Greeting French people the way you greet American, British or even Spanish people is a recipe for disaster. A rather large friend would envelop me and I froze. In everyday life, one shakes hands.
Hi Luis, thanks for your comment! It's hard to know what to do on these occasions, because to pull back and attempt to refuse the gesture could cause deep offence. The sound comes from your lips and not your voice. Don´t know how the German women do it, but I just always wait and see what the man does and which side of my face he goes for first. I generally let the woman decide whether she want to cheek-kiss, shake-hands or high-five me. In the Netherlands, it's exactly 3 kisses, starting with the right cheek. Which cheek do you start with, the left or the right? They particularly enjoy bestowing their kisses on close friends and family, but for new acquaintances potential future friends , in business settings, and with strangers, a handshake is the greeting of choice.
Answer in the comments below this post! See below for further explanation. Just off the top of my head, you can: single-or-double-cheek air kiss, single-or-double-cheek real kiss, hug, hug and kiss, hug and air-kiss, fist-bump, high-five, shake hands, enact two-handed hand wrap accompanied by ultrasincere into-the-eye-stare , soul shake, secret handshake when greeting a member of your clandestine society , shake-feint beloved by teens since time immemorial: you act like you're going to shake hands then at the last second pull back to smooth your hair , hand kiss sometimes preceded by mustache twirl and French utterance e. However there is one thing I can never get the hang of. I would kiss them on the lips on the 2-4 date, because by the … fifth or sixth date they'll loose interest with not lip to lip contact or just any physical contact. The appropriate social context for use can vary greatly from one country to the other, though the gesture might look similar. Teenagers are a different story. It feels very good, it is very intimate and it is far more of a sexual turn-on than a normal dry kiss.
Update: Answering the question in your comment is not as easy to answer as one would think. Cheek kissing in is relatively common between friends and family. Do you pretend they arent attractive if the wife is watching? The Lebanese cheek-kiss is performed by touching the cheeks and kissing the air. It was my time to freeze and not know how to react! Things are more complicated in French. When an American friend of mine living in France hugged me , I was really embarrassed at first but soon got used to it but always keep a certain distance.
They greet each other with kisses everywhere, on all occasions or almost. Do you have to make that kissing sound when you cheek kiss? I should have researched more! When offered up quick, it's hard to override. The security agent there were so kind and helpful when I lost my phone and really took a lot of trouble to help me to find it in the huge crowd. Being Italian and Spanish we have always hugged in my family and friends. And everyone will live happily ever after. My mother in law was the proverbial frozen post the first time i hugged her, which was the first time we met, prior to her daughter and I geting married.
Please make sure your comment is respectful, relevant and adds to the conversation. These days, it seems that almost every greeting hello and goodbye, or enjoyed that round of golf with you requires some form of hugging and kissing the cheek or kissing the air. Males will shake hands between males, but males and females font les bises. How many kisses: It depends on the region, so observe the people around you and follow suit. Coming to France where they touch cheeks felt right to me, it is friendly but not too intimate.