This only works for as long as it takes for you to figure out that the reason the relationship seems to be at a plateau is because: your effort alone cannot keep the ship sailing. Then, we are told which of the sixteen various types we are--and from there, we are told what kind of people we are, what kind of careers we should consider, and what other Myers-Briggs personalities we're most compatible with! I will now never remarry and will maintain only physical relationships. I really think your points, if kept in consideration, will really help me out in my dating life. Instead, my mind got ahead of me, and I convinced myself we weren't compatible. Someone who escapes predictability, but still provides you with reassurance. This leads to a lack of confidence. How do I compete with this fiction in her head? We were even discussing moving in together and buying a house, etc.
Within weeks her old abusive ways returned. So, stop trying to please her. Also I could use some info, like this article, just where the genders are reversed. I give her support when she needs it and space when she needs it. Though I always felt there was something impenetrable about him—he admitted people had trouble connecting with him and seemed closed—he told me he liked me.
So dont know how much is cultural and if it makes a difference. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy has begun to show real success in treating Borderline and several other previously thought intractable constellations of distress and difficulty reasoning that have been labeled as personality disorders. It developed over the years and he is who he is. If you want a peaceful life, stay away! I realized it is My fault, cause in the beginning I just wanted just that. I commend you for seeking help.
All of you guys are right about bpd females. We even have a whole system into play as to how our very blood types could mold our personalities from the get-go. One week, we are great and lovey dovey, the next day she is distant and emotional. I had tried to end my life 2-3 three times last year due to missing my ex and the fact that my life flipped upside down. Did he stop for me or did he come to the realization that there was something wrong? So if you want more insight into who might be your soulmate, let's just get right to it! Then I say no until she says yes. We told everyone and my family was thrilled! Crew guy was an extrovert like me. She said she loved me within two weeks.
Who you should go for: The one who tries. When he tried to get close to me, I noticed that suddenly I became critical of him. I said yes, next time I will put a paper towel under the cup. I had a huge discussion with her, that led to a argument. Hi Rick, came across your page and seeking some insight and help. I asked her numerous times if there was anyone else, and she always said no. We can play mind fk with the best of them and would prefer to be dominated in the brain.
She tells me I tell her I love her too often. Now my mistake was that I used to assume ownership and blame in order to try and calm the situation down, but that only caused more frequent breakouts. I am strong at work, but I am weak in heart. The events my death brought were merely the bones of a body that would become whole at some unpredictable time in the future. They seem so wonderful, except they trip you to keep you under control, or black-mail you, or whatever. I dont know if its another guy, I dont know what it is. Every time I tell her this however, she turns up the infatuation, and once my ego has been sufficiently fed she pulls back again.
If I say I am hurt, she said she made me feel like that so she must be not loving me anymore and I should go, and then after an hour she hug me and said she just dun wanna me leaving her. She needed to go back to her home state, I helped take care of her pets for a few days everyday. And most people have huge egos which keep us from addressing our issues. One of which was, I often ask her to send me a picture of her, because I miss her, or want to see her. I got a couple of abusive messages and then silence.
Not only are you enabling her, but you are also making her a worse person! I have been analysing my actions and state of mind in the past 10 years and this morning i came up with a question: do i have a mental disorder? Or perhaps I am on better position, after rejecting her in the past? For awhile, this year…I felt lost. That she has had sex with a guy with an enormous dick, and she prefers small dicks. She had to move in a week, I helped her move. She started the process five years ago. And pules away when i dont give it to him.
But still, since then my love for her kinda went down a bit. Like most people here, I came looking for answers. Met through friends had a full fairy tale story everyone on our side etc. But even though it may seem attractive and comfortable, being with your same type can create problems too, Overbo warned. Then I met Casanova and fell in love.